I'm pulling my hair out

[izzyydady]

My wife had a miscarrage 4 mons ago, how long will the hormones take to level back out. One moment every thing is fine then the next moment the world is going to end. I love her very much we always try to think of each other befor ourselves. We made it through our first year of marriage July 16. My wife..... is the first time I have ever stuck with anything I don't want to loose her. she tells me it's not me. I'm every thing to her. I just wonder if it's me. is there any thing I can do or is this the paicents learning I asked God about.

[Jackson's Dad]

It's not just hormones, its emotions -- miscarraiges can be really tough things to go through. Our local hospital has programs for people who went through one. I recommend you check it out and both go and TALK about what's going on. It's effecting you both, and getting it into the open is the best thing.

[Indy]

We went through a miscarriage, but it was really early in the pregnancy. Even then, the doctor put her on an anti-depressant (Prozac).

Even as early as the miscarriage was, it was tough to get through. I was down in Florida when it happened. Fortunately, we have family up here, so she didn't have to go through it by herself. We knew conceiving would be a challenge (the wife has PCOS), and it took about a year for us. Losing the child was disheartening, as we didn't know if it was because of her problems, or just bad luck.

Good news is, we managed to conceive about six months later and the doctors were very proactive. They put Nicole on Progesterone for the first three months, and saw her on a weekly basis. The pregnancy went just fine. Our second kid is due at the end of September, and there's been no trouble with this pregnancy either.

Have faith, talk it through, and try again when you're ready.

[izzyydady]

this has been an experance that neather my wife or I want to go through again Thanks

[mrandjr]

I feel for you. 3 years ago we went through the same thing. It was very difficult on both of us.

Make sure you talk to each other. We didn't go the counsiling route. In hindsight it would have been a good idea.