no idea what to do

[sao95]

well I got a call this afternoon for a job interview, it was outta the blue, for a resume I had sent out a long long time ago. But it's with a great company, great benefits, and great money. The downside would be my daughter in daycare all week, it's a sales type job (not commision, salary), and I would be basically putting the things I wanted to do on a shelf. Everyone I've talked to keeps focusing on the money, but I'm thinking of the other side, but the money makes me feel like I should take it, as it seems like a good oppurtunity. So do I take a stand, say I am a SAHD and that is what I want to be, or do I go against my self for the money? It seems clear to me that I should take a stand, but what if an oppurtunity like this never comes along again? I'm supposed to call the lady back today and let her know if I'm gonna go to the interview or not :( Did I mention the wife thinks I should do it? So not doing it could cause a ripple of discontent with her.
sao

[Don-Dad]

I wish I had some advice. Best person to talk to would be your wife again and weigh all the pros and cons. Get a quick list together and call her :)


Good luck with your decision.

[tt3]

Follow your heart, man. I don't know your situation... you just have to factor as much into it as you can, wife kid money daycare homelife, and figure out whats best for you.
Were it me, I'd pass. But it would be very unlikely I'd get an offer with biology and teaching degrees....

BUT, do the interview, its not going to hurt, right?

[Don-Dad]

Yeah, good point, might as well interview and then have that in detail discussion if you get offered the job.

[Dave-IL]

Yeah dfeinitely do the interview so you can get a idea of exactly who you would be working with. If you really dislike the guy, no matter what the money it wouldnt matter. You also might be able to find other things out that could sway your decision one way or another

[DarthDaddy]

I do not know how your relationship with your wife is, but for us EVERYTHING is a TEAM EFFORT. If it were me I would speak with her and really go over what you BOTH feel is best for your family.

I have the best of both worlds and Work From Home so I have no daycare. If I were to ever lose this job my wife and I already agreed I would NOT look for anything else. Maybe some PT work here and there for extra cash.

I would also sugeest going to the interview. See what the job actually is and if they actually offer it to you. If there is never an offer at least you did not burn a bridge. If they do offer it to you and you decide NOT to take it you can decline and say it just does not fit your family situation at this point.

About the MONEY... It will all have to do with how you and your wife view your finiancial needs. Money is usually a strong motivator. When it comes down to it at what point is the money something for you to take. Considering the cost of DayCare, Sick Days, Doctors Appointments and everything you have the ability to do now.

When ever my wife and I make a decision it is planned out TOGETHER for what is BEST for our FAMILY.

Good Luck and I hope you can find a solution that best meets your families needs. Whatever the choice I am sure it will work out for you and your family.

Darth-Daddy

[Jackson's Dad]

...it seems like a good oppurtunity.

A good opportunity... but is it an opportunity you want? When I started up my own business (based on me being artist, of all things) I constantly felt pressure to take a "real job". (The pressure came from me, by the way: my wife, my parents, everyone supports my art career.) Every so often, I'd get an offer from a friend that was "a good opportunity". I'd stress over it for many days, wondering if I should take it, worrying if another never came.

But you have to sit down and determine (with the wife): what are your goals. Does this job -- no matter how "good" it is -- help you achieve them, or is it a distraction. Then decide.

What I found funny was that everytime I was tempted by one of these "great opportunities" yet turned down, two things would happen: (1) the job would later reveal itself to be bad, and (2) my own business and art would suddenly jump to the next level.

[sao95]

I talked it out with the wife, she said she supported whatever I decided, I know she doesn't really understand why though. The lady on the phone gave me a detailed description of the job, it's duties, salary, et cetera, kinda like a phone interview, the feeling I got was if I went tomorrow I got the job, plus I didn't want to have the job offered to me and then decline, I thought better to explain that currently I am unable to take it, but I would love to work for that company in the future if circumstances change. We have been talking of moving back to Indianapolis, (right now we are in Texas), and we have even packed some boxes and been cleaning up to put the house on the market, honestly I have no desire to live down here, and taking the job seemed like a step in the right direction money wise, but the wrong direction with everything else. So I called her back and explained basically what I just told you all. I hate making life decisions, never know if they are right or not, it seems right to me though. so guess we'll see what happens :) obviously if I end up divorced, without custody, jobless, living under a bridge in Texas, then it was the wrong decision :lol:
sao

[sao95]

hey Jackson's dad, you just nailed a big chunck of it, a tidbit that I didn't devulge in detail. The degree I just got was a fine arts degree with a focus in painting. I have been kicking around graphic design cause I had to take those classes, photohshop, dreamweaver et cetera, but have also been kicking around writing childrens books, something I have always wanted to try, and of course I still paint. But man did you nail it, "I constantly felt pressure to take a "real job"" BTW, what do you have goin, what medium, if you don't mind me askin :)
sao

[Jackson's Dad]

Sao, I do fine art photography (http://www.danielsroka.com). I was a graphic designer for a long time, rose up the ranks to being creative director at a couple different companies and... burned out. There was just nothing left to achieve. I was spending my time trying to make other people's companies look good, so I thought, why not take my skills and apply it to myself?

I started a business selling prints based on my photography (a very specialized market, check out my site if you are curious), and that's been going very well now. My next goal is to expand my market and start getting represented in more galleries (I was in one, but had to leave when I moved.)

Let me tell you, I find working for yourself to be the biggest thrill.