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SGTDad
05-13-2010, 12:14 AM
That's the question. Thoughts?

CTDon
05-13-2010, 12:55 AM
Assuming your kids ages in your sig are current, I'd say now would be a good time to separate, and is probably a good average too. My son will be 6 in under 2 weeks and he's already starting to get curious and knows the 'difference' between boys and girls. My wife is starting to not change in front of him.

Playing in the bath isn't so much a deal for us now that we have a hot tub in the new house, so the kids get lots of chill time in a big bath....besides, he's beginning to take showers more frequently than baths. Not only is it more 'grown up', but it's SO much easier and quicker: I start the water and make sure the temp isn't too hot. I put a washcloth next to his body wash and shampoo bottles, and a towel on the kitchen countertop next to his pajamas.....he does everything else. When he walks out of the bathroom the towel and washcloth are hanging, he's in his jammies and he carries his day clothes over to the hamper. Easy peasy.

jeffus
05-13-2010, 03:50 AM
They should NEVER bathe together! Boy cooties and girl cooties do not mix! Ever! :icon_lol:

Porschephile
05-13-2010, 02:29 PM
IMO between the age of 4.5 to 5 is a good time. How old are they right now ?

silviomossa
05-13-2010, 02:35 PM
I don't think there is any "necessary" time, but splitting them up this summer (when cleaning is likely more frequent) wouldn't be a bad idea. Your daughter will probably request a split soon anyway.

We also usually do showers instead of baths -- quicker, less messy, and the kids (8, 5) do much of it themselves. And if you swim in the summer, it's nice if they can learn to clean themselves off in the shower before they leave -- gets the chlorine off sooner, and one less thing to deal with at home.

Hockeyfan
05-13-2010, 02:40 PM
My girl isn't all that old so it's hard to say what will feel "right" to me. My boys (3 & 5) still bath together, but we are slowly moving away from that. They both have known for a LONG time that there is a difference between men and women (boys and girls). They have seen other girls parts before. Not a big deal.

As for the baby girl. She is a year old now and we put her in with the boys once in a while. I'd think till around 2 or so and we will be okay with it. After that, likely not so much. My oldest will be 6 and youngest will be 4 and that's old enough for that. I'm saying that now without having lived it.

SGTDad
05-13-2010, 05:34 PM
Thanks for the replies all. Kids are bathing apart now because the wife insisted on it. I don't really think it's a big deal either way - mine have shared a bath all along since they're only a year apart - so I'm not too concerned. It's more of a pain now, but it's gotta happen sometime.

Mark B.
05-13-2010, 07:33 PM
IMO between the age of 4.5 to 5 is a good time. How old are they right now ?


+1.

Cubfan
05-13-2010, 07:38 PM
That's the question. Thoughts?

It all depends. Do you live in the north or the south?? :icon_lol:

SGTDad
05-13-2010, 08:02 PM
It all depends. Do you live in the north or the south?? :icon_lol:

Currently in the North, but this is my hometown:

http://www.superiorpics.com/news/pic/2006_borat_004.jpg

:D

Hockeyfan
05-13-2010, 08:16 PM
It all depends. Do you live in the north or the south?? :icon_lol:

Ouch! Leave those poor Yankees alone. That does not lead to same sex marriage. :twak:

D.C. Hughes
05-14-2010, 02:01 PM
I don't think there is any "necessary" time, but splitting them up this summer (when cleaning is likely more frequent) wouldn't be a bad idea. Your daughter will probably request a split soon anyway.

I concur with the first part of the first sentence, second part--no opinion. Second sentence--maybe, might be the boy who makes the request.

Mein Leibchen says "When they start getting 'giddy' about it and start acting 'weird'..."

This brings up a number of different things.

Pretty much comes down to "family/household culture" and views. More about boundaries and "appropriateness" than anything IMO.

They both have known for a LONG time that there is a difference between men and women (boys and girls). They have seen other girls parts before. Not a big deal.

Key phrase: Not a big deal

Take one (of several) approach and it's "no big deal"--i.e. the human body, male/female, "that's just Mom (or my sister)" or vice versa.

But, the challenge is to get across--without scarring them or creating a "complex(s)"--one wears clothes in public/outside the house, strangers should be clothed, no one should touch you etc etc...

Conversely, there are those who have very strong views regarding "modesty" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Modesty) etc.

However...

"One theoretical argument in favor of a forbidden-fruit effect (http://www.independent.org/publications/tir/article.asp?a=335) comes out of Brehm's reactance theory (Brehm (http://www.psychwiki.com/wiki/Reactance_Theory), 1972). In general, reactance theory predicts that when an individual's freedom is threatened or taken away, the individual is motivated to restore that freedom. One method of doing so is to actively seek to engage in the proscribed behavior. Specifically in the current case, assuming parental advisory labels are interpreted as an attempt at censorship, then reactance theory would argue that the presence of such a label would increase the motivation to consume or acquire the labeled music."
ref: "The Effects of Parental Advisory Labels on Adolescent Music Preference". Journal of Communcation, 42(1) Winter, 92: 106 (http://www.questia.com/googleScholar.qst;jsessionid=LtTNr82Lbpsr64TRPPQvx QLZtt11LdXL6Kf2D3gykv7sZ5ltXkkQ!-92997391!-1807481064?docId=96382631)

See also:
Reactance Theory (http://www.psychwiki.com/wiki/Reactance_Theory)
Boomerang Effect (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boomerang_effect)
Reactance (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactance_(psychology))
Forbidden Fruit: When Prohibition Increases the Harm It Is Supposed to Reduce (http://www.independent.org/publications/tir/article.asp?a=335)

Hockeyfan
05-14-2010, 02:04 PM
You are the multi-quoting, literature citing King. LOL. Have a beer man. :chugchug:

D.C. Hughes
05-14-2010, 02:13 PM
You are the multi-quoting, literature citing King. LOL. Have a beer man. :chugchug:

A beer!?!

I'll have you know, sir, I was my college rugby team's Keg Stand Champion :pint:

Hockeyfan
05-14-2010, 02:49 PM
A beer!?!

I'll have you know, sir, I was my college* rugby team's Keg Stand Champion :pint:
* (University of Phoenix Online)

Fixed.

D.C. Hughes
05-14-2010, 02:51 PM
Fixed.

Maybe so, maybe not. Pick my nose, eat my snot :-P