Miguel's Dad
08-26-2005, 12:30 AM
Dear fellow dads,
I think this is the best site for us full time dads! I wish I had found this when I started my stay at home career.
I have posted here a couple of times but never introduced myself. I have been a SAHD for 10 months; my son is now 14 months old. I have been through ups and downs throughout this journey. This summer I was visiting the Philly area and had the honor of making it to a Bucks/Montgomery County SAHD meeting. Now we are in Puerto Rico for a few weeks and then we will return to New Hampshire where my wife will finish her last year in an MBA program.
I left the Navy last September after serving 6 years. The Navy was tough but I think being a SAHD is just as hard or even harder at times. here are lots of similarities: no vacation, no breaks, always on duty, no good sleep, bad food (if you eat the baby's leftovers), no time to workout, no time off when you are sick, you have a huge responsibility to the people you lead, and no freedom. But I wouldn't trade being a SAHD for anything else.
A couple things I have trouble with are being called "Mr. Mom" and the lack of respect we get. I tell people if you want to call me Mr. Mom at least call me Mr. MILF (for those who don't know MILF = Mother I'd like to F***). That throws them off. And I hate how men get mixed messages. Everyone wants fathers to become more involved and when we put our family first, people call us lazy or say we are freeloading even though our job is so hard. I keep getting the question even from my parents: so when are you going to get a job? I say I already have a job. And when they watch Miguel for a short while they ask me how I do it everyday. It takes a real man to take care of another person's life and development. I think all of you fellow stay at home dad's deserve a huge pat on the back!
Anyway, sorry about the long post, I have been meaning to write more often. Take care and thanks for such a great forum.
Miguel's Dad (Thomas)
I think this is the best site for us full time dads! I wish I had found this when I started my stay at home career.
I have posted here a couple of times but never introduced myself. I have been a SAHD for 10 months; my son is now 14 months old. I have been through ups and downs throughout this journey. This summer I was visiting the Philly area and had the honor of making it to a Bucks/Montgomery County SAHD meeting. Now we are in Puerto Rico for a few weeks and then we will return to New Hampshire where my wife will finish her last year in an MBA program.
I left the Navy last September after serving 6 years. The Navy was tough but I think being a SAHD is just as hard or even harder at times. here are lots of similarities: no vacation, no breaks, always on duty, no good sleep, bad food (if you eat the baby's leftovers), no time to workout, no time off when you are sick, you have a huge responsibility to the people you lead, and no freedom. But I wouldn't trade being a SAHD for anything else.
A couple things I have trouble with are being called "Mr. Mom" and the lack of respect we get. I tell people if you want to call me Mr. Mom at least call me Mr. MILF (for those who don't know MILF = Mother I'd like to F***). That throws them off. And I hate how men get mixed messages. Everyone wants fathers to become more involved and when we put our family first, people call us lazy or say we are freeloading even though our job is so hard. I keep getting the question even from my parents: so when are you going to get a job? I say I already have a job. And when they watch Miguel for a short while they ask me how I do it everyday. It takes a real man to take care of another person's life and development. I think all of you fellow stay at home dad's deserve a huge pat on the back!
Anyway, sorry about the long post, I have been meaning to write more often. Take care and thanks for such a great forum.
Miguel's Dad (Thomas)