REALITY CHECK

[kevinplus3]

My name is Kevin and I'm new at this dad at home thing. I was forced to retire from a great police career due to a bad work injury and a bunch of surgeries. My wife and I have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old daughter , Isabelle, and two 7 month old identical twins, Hannah and Heather.

I decided to stay at home with my kids while my wife works, (she does real well financially), and although I'm an old man at 44, (LOL), I'm doing the best I can.

I do find however, that it is easy to become very isolated. Most of my friends and family have little to say as far as encouragement goes, but the time I get to spend with my kids makes up for it.

Due to my kids ages, I still somewhat housebound. ANY SUGGESTIONS????? I look forward to exchanging ideas and experiences with you.

And yes, this is tougher than my previous job! :shock:

[tt3]

And yes, this is tougher than my previous job!

Yeah, and probably a really good thing you no longer cary a sidearm, huh? :lol:
Just kidding! Welcome aboard! More twins!!

Encouragement is sometimes hard to come by when people lack understanding... One of the times I was in for a check up there was a student doing the initial screen and she kept asking "yeah, but what do you do?"

Look forward to hearing more from ya, Kevin!

[Remington]

Twins! Awesome....

My Uncle is a State Trooper up here in Maine and he is actually my mother's twin brother. lol

I hear ya about the job being more difficult. It takes a lot of work and I also think it takes some brains and wisdom to raise the kids well.

Welcome and I look forward to hearing more... :D

[Don-Dad]

Welcome Kevin! I'm glad you found us :)

It has to be hard with two 7 month old and a 2.5 year old. Once your youngest ones get more mobile, it will be easier to get out of the house but harder to keep up with them :wink:

I have found my local YMCA a great place to unwind a bit and get the kids out as well. My kids love going to the Y.

Good luck and come back and share some stories as I am sure you will have some good ones.

[Jackson's Dad]

Most of my friends and family have little to say as far as encouragement goes...

I hear you. It seems that no one wants to hear you say how difficult it is. My wife and I joke about the Parents Conspiracy, and unofficial pact among all parents to not talk about the difficult stuff (in order to increase their numbers).

And help/advice for Dads? Forget it. My favorite so far, when i am trying to vent some of my frustration or confusion, is the "well of course you find it hard -- men have a harder time then women." Gee.. thanks! It is like if a student admited to a teacher he was having problems, and the teacher responded "well, you are pretty stupid."

Dan

[Remington]

Yep! I still deal with that junk but it actually has simmered down a bit. It is like anything... at first it is all gossipy and new and then when nothing major becomes of it they move on to find newer gossip.

:D

[tt3]

One of the other members here's website (thats a lot of s's) pointed out the fact that there are SOO many books out there for how to be a mom, which means the ladies haven't a clue until they do it too!
I've had the pleasure of hearing "...but its a moms group" a few times.
Kinda funny!

[SAHF]

First off, WELCOME to the site. That is great that you have twins. And no...I would die if I had twins! :D You will find that we all have the same issues when it comes to "male friends" and their ideas of life. But you are in good company here!

Twins! Awesome....

My Uncle is a State Trooper up here in Maine and he is actually my mother's twin brother. lol


Now Rem....

Now Kevin has IDENTICAL twins...I am assuming that your mom and uncle are not identical.... :D :D :D

[tommyw/1]

Welcome Kevin! You may want to hold on to that firearm being that you've got three girls! :-s I've got one and try real hard not to think about what lies ahead in the future! :axe: (That would be me-w/ the axe...chasing future potential boyfriend(s)

[Remington]

Now Rem....

Now Kevin has IDENTICAL twins...I am assuming that your mom and uncle are not identical.... :D :D :D
LOL

No they are not identical but they do resemble each other. There are fraternal twins on both me and my wife's side of the family so that would be cool if someday we had twins.

added note: Jess and I did some math and we figured at this rate by the time I am 40 years old we would have 16 kids. And that is if she pops them out one at a time. :shock: When our 4th is due in december we will have 4 kids under the age 4 1/2. We just had our 5 year anniversary this June... :wink:

[SAHF]

Now Rem....

Now Kevin has IDENTICAL twins...I am assuming that your mom and uncle are not identical.... :D :D :D
LOL

No they are not identical but they do resemble each other. There are fraternal twins on both me and my wife's side of the family so that would be cool if someday we had twins.

added note: Jess and I did some math and we figured at this rate by the time I am 40 years old we would have 16 kids. And that is if she pops them out one at a time. :shock: When our 4th is due in december we will have 4 kids under the age 4 1/2. We just had our 5 year anniversary this June... :wink:

:shock:

OMG!!!

[Remington]

LOL

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Yes, we need to slow down a bit! :shock:

[floridamcmarion1]

Don't slow down.......speed up! As of Friday my wife and I will have had 16 children and one grandchild. Not bad, since our 5th anniversary isn't until the 14th of this month! :lol: At least with foster care you get to give some back! Once our newest is born Friday we will have 4 kids and one grandchild in the house. We have gained some sanity and are no longer taking foster children. After all, we did run out of beds. I got married at 31, became a daddy at 33, a grandpa at 35...............I'm afraid to ask what comes at 37. #-o

[Remington]

Wow - you are a busy guy! My wife and I talk about having 12. I worked with a lady that had 13 and one of them died a few weeks after it was born. She raised 12 children. Amazing!

My wife and I have thought about adoption as a possibility in the future but we are still unsure.

[Jackson's Dad]

My Grandmother raised seven, on her own for most of it (my Grandfather died young). She was a tough, amazing woman. Wish I had know her better. But, with countless grandchildren, she did her best.