almost divorced

[Anonymous]

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[Don-Dad]

I am very sorry about your situation. I think a therapist sounds like a very viable option if you can get your wife to agree to go. I wish I could offer some better advice. Maybe she is still suffering from post partum depression or something?

I wish you luck and hope that your marriage can get back on track.

[SAHF]

Hey, sorry to hear.

The only thing I can think of as well as get a therapist now. As Don-Dad said, she maybe suffering from post partum depression. It will not be simple nor will it be plesant, but it is something that needs to be done. The only problem is...she has to agree with it.

I wish you all the luck in the world with this and hope everything turns out for the best.

[mjknapp]

oh man, I really feel for you, and I know exactly what you are going through. I went through the same thing with my ex-wife in the exact same situation. The only way therapy will work is if she will go whole-heartedly with you. The pain you are going through is unbearable I know, I cried every day, what ended up happening was me quitting my job at pepsi, a very good job, great money, I felt to ashamed to face my co-workers or anyone else I knew for that matter. I finally moved to PA from Iowa to try to get my life straightened out. I wish I could tell you the magical answer to help you out, but there isnt one, the only thing I can tell you is to take care of yourself and your kids, this is going to be very emotionally draining on you, and you need all the support from friends and family that you can get for what is to come. I am sorry to say this, but if a woman wants a divorce there really is no stopping it. Give her what she wants, stay beside her and the kids, find a therapist for yourself, I found that after my ex-wife got the freedom she wanted she found out that it wasnt as much fun as she thought it would be and tried to have me come back, but I had already moved over a thousand miles away and was falling quickly for my now current wife. When I told her that I wouldnt come back she filed for sole custody of the kids and told alot of lies to get it.

So my advice is to let her have the freedom she so desires as hard as it may be to you, show her that you can change, and then do it, I know this is harsh advice, but it is the truth, and please keep coming back to this message board, all these guys have help in so many different aspects.

I am going to p.m. you with my e-mail address, e-mail me, I went through the exact same thing you are, and I will help you in every manner that I can. Please get ahold of me, I want to help.

I know this hurts alot, but try to be strong, and I beleive that a happy ending comes out of every different situation in life.

[mjknapp]

I was going to p.m. you, but you are not logged in. I am going to put my e-mail address on here for a few days then delete it, as I dont want all the spam that I will surely get if I left it on here forever. I will deal with the spam for a while so that I can try to help you.

Get ahold of me ok!!

[Anonymous]

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[Remington]

My wife wanted to divorce me for over a year and I don't blame her. I was awful acting and I was disrespectful. I went to the doctors and found out that my thyroid was non-active. It wasn't producing low levels, it was completely broken and non-active. The doctor told me I shouldn't be able to function like I was. He was surprised I had the energry to make it to the doctors office. Once I started taking my medication after about 6 months I began to come out of this dark thick cloud that was hanging over me for so many years. After about a year I was almost normal again.

My wife and I are so much more happy now.

I am sorry for your situation. Maybe you should go to the doctors and see if they can find something wrong with you that you can blame an unhappy marriage on. :lol: :lol:

Seriously though, I would seek help.

[mjknapp]

thanks for contacting me, I sent you a couple e-mails back, I am trying to help you out as much as I can, but this getting ready for vacation thing is killing me. Hang in there man, do what you think is best for you right now, nothing drastic, but you have to keep your wits about ya. This is a really tough time for you, keep your head up.

[tt3]

Mike, thats cool you're helping out! Us dads gotta stick together!

[mjknapp]

Man, I really feel for this guy, I went through exactly what he is, and it was almost to much for me, I had so many questions, and noone could answer them, I just dont ever want to see anyone go through this stuff, will drive a man over the edge if he isnt careful.

[mjknapp]

, were do you live, I have a few liinks that I am looking for, but it depends on where you live if any of them would be relevant to you.

[Anonymous]

I went through a similar situation. I worked nights and my wife worked days. We traded baby care times and it was a night mare because it created distance between us. My wife threatened divorce so I found a day job and put our son in daycare. We were a family at night and on weekends. I had to take a pay cut and live less extravagantly but, all my wife wanted was time as a family together. Her doctor diagnosed her as depressed and gave her a prescription. Later she threatened divorce again, I think due to her depression. I found a web site called www.FathersRights.com. I left it up on the computer screen for her to see. I advised her that if we get a divorce I will never stop fighting for custody and it will not be easy or pretty for her. If she starts fight I will always love her but, I will finish the fight. I constantly reminded my wife that her solution was divorce but, that is not the only solution to our problems. She could not just run away and if she wanted to run away from problems she would have to leave our son behind. After that talk she realized that I loved our son and her and I would fight to stay together. We are in counseling and as long as she is on her medication she is fine. She may just want to see you fight to stay together. Not beg but, put up an emothional verbal loving fight to keep the things you love. I hope I have helped, my situation lasted about 12 months of rollercoastering emotions and not knowing what to expect minute to minute. Now I realize it was worth it. We are much happier now. Counseling and Prescriptions really helped.

[Buzz522]

Sounds so familiar.......why is it that they don't want to even talk to a counselor? Just , "let's get a divorce, I don't love you anymore." I'll never understand how this can happen. What grounds are "I just don't love you anymore". Where's the why?

I feel for you, Jon

peace