Where'd it go?

[tt3]

Hi guys,
We had another nice day so we met a friend with her kids at the zoo. She also invited one of her friends, so there were three of us with kids...
Anyway, BC (before child) I used to be able to chat up a storm, talk to anyone about anything ya know? Now, its gone! No kididng, I never used to feel at a loss for words but sheesh...
Any of you lose some social skill? Or am I just a freak who needs to get out more? :lol:

[Don-Dad]

No problems here, you must be a Freak! Just kidding! :P

You mentiond. "she" and another friend, assuming she was also a "she"? I find it harder to get into conversations with stay at home moms as I would rather talk sports or guy stuff. Maybe that's why you lost your gitft of gab?

[tt3]

Yup, both sahm's. The only other adult male around is the freakin' cat, and I'm not socializing with it! :lol:
Could just be that....

[Remington]

I lost some social skills I guess you would call it. I had always been very outspoken and friendly and I have lost some of that. I usually would talk to whoever rang me out at a store or something and now I just keep my head down and pay and move on.

I am not sure why really.

I was voted in the Friendliest in my class senior year of high school for the yearbook but these days I do not initiate a lot of conversations.

Also I used to be a flirt and now I wouldn't know if a chick was coming on to me if she came out and told me. :roll:

[Anonymous]

I concur...U R A freak! :wink: JK!!

The gift of Gab...yeah, gone but not out. It seems that what I would usually like to talk about has changed to topics on my kids most times.

NOW...the flirtation portion..that has never gone away. It seems to have gotten a little worse! :wink:

The GoG went the way of flirting instead....I think that came about more, because of me only seeing kids and moms. SO....to break the ice I guess flirting came out more than anything else! Shhh...don't tell the wife... :P

[SAHF]

:( That was me...I forgot to login! Sorry!

[tt3]

HA! Thats great! I've never been good at flirting. Good at reading people, making them laugh, but never intentionally flirting. Well, um, I used to be able to anyway... :roll:

[Remington]

Sometimes though I start rambling on and on because of the lack of adult conversations. I had called Don and chatted with him about work and I just started blabbing on and on and on.

Then I drink coffee and man....... :shock:

yada yada yada

[tt3]

yeah, babbling is a problem for me, too... maybe related to the same brain area :lol:
My wife kind of tunes me out after a while, if its been a quiet day. blahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahbl ahblah
aah well :roll:

[Remington]

It is funny because 5 years ago it was hard to get me to speak up and talk. I sorta kept ideas and thoughts to myself. Now I am the opposite. I am actually better now that I am aware of it, but not too long ago I would pace and yap yap yap.

I remember I was yapping away on my cell phone and it tells you when the connection happened and when the call ended. I stopped talking and was like... "hello? helloooo?" I looked down and saw the call ended like 3 minutes ago. "uuuhhhhhh...... ok more coffeee....." :P

[mjknapp]

I have so lost the gift of gab!!! I only talk to my wife on the phone, or when she is at home. I hardly ever talk to anyone but my wife on the phone. My neighbor called the other day to see if I wanted to go fishing and play a little poker this saturday night. When we were saying goodbye, I almost said "love ya babe". :oops: I am glad I caught myself before I stuck my foot in my mouth, but like I said, my wife is the only person I talk to on the phone, and it is just habit to say that before I hang up.

[Anonymous]

I too have found I do not have as much to talk about. I think it is because when I had a job I spoke with other adults 12 hours a day and learned alot from other poeple. My confidence was higher because I was in a comfortable atmosphere where I knew what my job was. I was respected for being in charge. Now I don't talk to many adults except my neighbor who is a stay at home mom and the conversations seem a little cloudy and I don't learn much from her. I found that to replace the extensive adult interaction that I am accustomed to I had to start reading more about a wide variety of subjects either from magazines, the newspaper or at the library. The library keeps me sharp, learning and makes things not so boring. Reading has helped me get back the gift of comfortable social interaction.

[underfoot]

yeah, babbling is a problem for me, too... maybe related to the same brain area :lol:
My wife kind of tunes me out after a while, if its been a quiet day. blahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahblahbl ahblah
aah well :roll:

You're exactly right! Its got to be the adult brain matching the...

What was I going to say? Oh yeah...me talk like baby,too!

[Remington]

It bothered me at first when my wife ignored me but I am starting to like it. I just do my own thing. :D

But, back to the topic... hehe - I find reading to be very helpful as well. I also like these message boards. :wink:

[tt3]

Here's something funny, don't tell my wife though...
I swear, sometimes she only notices me when I move, like a T-rex! We can be sitting vegging after Tara's in bed rotting our minds in front of the idiot box, and if I get up to do something (like check these forums :lol: ) I get "whacha doin'? Can you get me a *insert appropriate request at the time*?"
I can sit there for a hour and not hear a peep, but if I get up and move, LOOKOUT!
:lol:

[Remington]

Oh yeah, my wife fits that so well. My wife and I won't even engage in a conversation for a long time and then I will get up to go get on the computer and it is "where you going?"

me: computer

wife: :roll: :roll:

me: what? I ain't watchin these darn stupid reality shows.

wife: Well, I thought you would want to spend time with me and not the computer.

me: :roll: :roll:

wife: well fine I am going to bed

me: It is just I sat here for over 30 minutes watching this crap and you haven't come up with anything decent enough to say

wife: :roll: :roll:

me: ok so whatya want to do instead

wife: I don't know

me: :roll: :roll:

[tt3]

OH MY GOODNESS! If Tara wasn't napping across the hall, I'd be roarin' with laughter! Thats us to a T! Freakin' dating shows catch her every time, bachelor joe loser or whatever if its on she's watching it!

quality time
Priceless
and "ok, what do you want to do?" "I dunno"

Man, tears here, serious... :lol:

[Remington]

The funny thing too, is if I got up to go do the dishes or sweep the floor, or even read a book she will know and not ask where I am going. It is when I head for the computer like it is another chic or something. She asks me where I am going like she caught me.

She acts as though I am having an affair with it.

[Anonymous]

I work 40 hours a week(nightshift), and take care of my daughter the rest of the time. My social skills have plummeted. I try to get out everyday with my daughter, if only for a 20-30 minutes for some social interaction. I'll strike up a conversation with a chair occasionally. I'm reading alot more, and cultivating some old friendships via the phone for the extra stimulation.

[dad of 2]

YES!

My social skills have plummeted too. I notice that my freinds whom most dont have kids are like I dont want to do the kid thing today. My place used to be the destination and now its not. Its a little disconcerting. So now my freinds have definately consolidated. Anybody else experience this?

That computer thing too. She has said almost the exact same thing to me. I write on the computer and I also "go online" and "check my e-mail"

"Whatcha you doing checking your e-mail?"

"Trying to maintain my sanity" is what I want to say but I dont.

[Kritter]

my wife doesn't like for me to do anything when shes home. not even cleaning.
example:
On her last day off she asked if I would like to take the kids swimming at the rec. center. I said "Sure sounds like a good idea" when we go places that the kids realllllllly like we figure out how long we want to stay and then we go that amount of time before it closes (it keeps them from arguing as much) Well, the rec. center pool closes at 4, and it was 12 noon at the time so she said "what are we going to do untill then?" and I tell her id like to get the yard mowed. Then she freaks out "You just dont want to spend ANY time with me do you?" Sure I do honey "why do you always mow on my days off?" well, because we have a 3yo who doent like to mow the yard and I dont exactly trust him in the house by himself for a few hours but if you dont want me to then fine what do you want to do? "I don't know" ](*,) ok look, let me finish these dishes and well talk about it.

so I finish the dishes and go in the frontroom and sit next to her on the couch look down at my hands and say "Im sorry honey what do you want to do" and she says "ZZZZZZZZ" SHES ASLEEP ARRRRRRR. :x