Another newbie here from Pennsylvania

[maximus605]

Hi Everyone,

Wow! After 3 1/2 years I finally took the time to look up some SAHD's. I've been reading and it sure seems like I have a lot in common with all of you.

Just a bit about me :)

I was born and live in Lancaster, Pa (Yeah, that's right, home of the Amish) and little one is about 3 1/2. My wife and I have been married for 10 years now and long bfore Ben was even though about we decided that I would stay home. I also have a 14 year old sone from a previous relationship that lives with his Mum a few miles away.

Any who, I really can't say HOW MUCH I love being a SAHD. I actualy can't put it into words for my wife. I love it and it's the most rewarding thing I will ever do in my life. I know that! But, yeah, it does kinda suck sometimes. I thought I was the only one who the ladies shunned but it's happened too many times just to be a coincidense. And it does suck when you are the only guy in about a 30 Mom radius (like this morning at Club Noggin at the Mall). Currently finding things to do is the most stressfull thing form me and Ben. He has been on a mini breal from pre-school and it, well, cold. And just TOOOO much TV. But probably the thing that gets me the most is the feeling of utter lonlieness. Slowly, one by one, my friends have disapeared. I went from a thriving office of 50 to being the only night guy (which I'm getting fired from in a few weeks). My best friend moved to Florida to be with his kids (which is great for him no doubt) and an older friend that I wish was my dad has run into some health problems. I knew this would be hard, but Lonley? Didn't see that one comming.

But please don't get me wrong, Ben is my best friend and we have such good times together. Like I said I can't even put it into words, it's been that good.

Well, I've kinda skimmed along here so if anyone would like to chat I would welcome it SOOOO much.

Thanks for listening.

Justin

[Don-Dad]

Welcome to our site Justin. Your sure to make some "online" friends.

[tt3]

...only guy in a 30 Mom radius...
I love that!
Welcome aboard, glad you found us. It took me at least a year to find this place, even considered making one. Glad Don did it first!
Stick around, post a lot, offer some advice and make sure you vent a little too!

30 mom radius, classic! Story time at the library most weeks are like that.

[Weston]

Welcome Justin...everyone here is pretty supportive. Stop by when you can

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone,

Thanks for the posts! It's nice to know there are more of "me" out there. Since I'm in I thought I'de share a big gripe I've had since I took Ben to the park the first time.

OK call me crazy but this happens many times. When a Mom sees me comming thier way on the playground they will 1. stop playing with thier kids. 2. grab the kids and put them close 3. Actaualy act as though I'm not there. 4. leave after a few mintues.

I JUST DON'T GET IT! I don't look like a creep and Ben isn't a bad kid that causes trouble. If anything, he's too friendly.

The first time this happened I thought I was losing it, but after several times I know....well......I don't know what to think I know.

Anybody else have this problem?

If this should be in a nother forum just let me know. I'm still kinda new to message bords in general.

Louis: thanks for the invite, when I'm at my in-laws in West Chester I'll make plans to join you:) Sounds real groovy.

Justin
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[maximus605]

Uhhh... That last one was me -Justin :) This technology stuff is just too darn hard :lol: :lol:

[jeffus]

Oh, you are definitely not alone in feeling this is a lonely job! I was where you are not so long ago. This is a great place to vent about it and lot's of Dad's have had the same experience.

Welcome and feel free to talk about it. We've all been there. And it's a great bunch of guys on the site that'll talk about anything - did you catch the fart thread? I mean anything.....Really :D :shock: 8)

[tt3]

Justin, somewhere in the general forum I posted about how a mom yelled at her boy for leaving her daughter in the swing next to me and Tara "DON'T YOU LEAVE HER ALONE!"
yeah, WTF lady, some dude with his 18month daughter is going to swipe your girl in broad day light? pffft.
Their problem, not mine. I don't want my kid around someone who'd be like that anyway, you know?

[Weston]

I agree with Louis....a big smile and a hello. Its almost like you have to confront them (in a friendly way of course) just to let them know that you are there. If they don't like it, then yeah, their problem. :wink:

[Jackson's Dad]

And you gotta stop wearing that hockey mask all the time. ;-)

Welcome! You are not alone.

[maximus605]

Ah Jeez! And what about the 10 strategicaly placed piercings around my eyes and yellow contacts? Ya think that might be a tad bit frightning?

Dude, I'm, like, the most non-threatning guy you'll ever meet.

Doubt we'll ever figure this one out.

later

Justin

[Don-Dad]

Dude, I'm, like, the most non-threatning guy you'll ever meet.



Ha! Sure you are :wink:

[maximus605]

Um....uhhhh....uhhhhh........"Your Father buys suits off the rack!" :evil:

How's that for a comeback :P I've been waiting YEARS to use that one. HA! That's a quote from Hawkeye from an old episode of M*A*S*H

He he he he he......

Justin

[tt3]

best present from my wife after the brewing stuff was season two of mash on dvd! (ssn 1 was out)

love that show!

[Jackson's Dad]

Reminds me of a friend who used to wear his black motorcycle helmet with the solid black visor and black leather suit on the subway just to freak people out. Nicest guy, just a little... off.

[Shocker]

My differences have been a little different however. Whether by consequence or coincidence. Then again I don't really frequent too many places where mothers herd. My experiences tend to fall into the category that I am alone walking in the mall, or any other open public palce and the woman finds RR cute and they immediately are drawn to him and naturally begin conversations. Since RR is VERY friendly to women, it becomes a very amusing situation, unless my wife is around.

That is an amazing situation as well. Women tend to approach the baby much more when I am alone. But that is a conversation for another topic...

Shocker

[maximus605]

I think I know what you mean.....As long as the ladies take that first step and say hi to you and the kiddie then everything is great and I usualy get a " hey that's great" when I say I'm a SAHD. BUT, just getting a "hi" is the tough part. It's AMAZING how Ben and I will be in a room full of women and I am basicaly invisible.

Justin

[Patrickz]

I get a 50/50 situation when I am alone in public with Alex. I get the "He is so cute" to the " Hey what do you think you are doing look" I think some mothers are down right resentful of SAHD's I get some real cross looks somtimes. I just say to myself " suck it up you old hag! we are here to stay!" sorry that hit a nerve. :oops:

[Don-Dad]

I think most people who see us in public during the day with the kids think "How nice, Dad took the day off work to hang out with the kids." I get that alot.

I think if they see you alot then realize your the SAHD, then you get those "other" looks.

[maximus605]

Oh you betcha, I get the "Daddy's home so let's go to the mall" looks all the time. And if they do talk and find out I'm a SAHD then they do soften a bit.

It actualy pays off big when I have kitchen show for my other part time job as a Pampered Chef Kitchen Consultant. When I say that I'm a SAHD and I cook and clean I usualy get a bunch of "Wows" and "Can you teach my husband that". I even got an offer to strip at a show a few weeks. I think they were kidding....I think :oops:

I've been taking Ben to the local Barnes and Noble for story time lately and there have been a few Mom's ther that have been regulars, but still very little eye contact from them . I also got a few "disaproving Grandma" looks to as if to say "Just got the hell back to work, Daddy".

Uggghhhhh!! I have come to realize in the last few years that there are a lot of frickin rude people in the world' I gues I just try to act like the old saying "Do to others as you would have done to you". That really helps me from going postal on some of these perfect mommy's.

Whew! I'm on a serioous rant! but then again "I rant when I rave" - Sorry, another Hawkeye quote :)

Later

Justin