new from new orleans

[big easy daddy]

Having a little trouble adjusting here. Actually most of the strife is coming from outsiders (unsupportive family, friends). When (8 mo) Henry and I are alone in our caccoon things pretty good- he's a freakin angel. Its really just the stress of dealing with other people thats getting me down and Im carrying alot of that around with me during the day because thats just what I do.

I put my wife through 10 years of school working as a waiter and a carpenter. this arrangement was always the plan since as an attorney shes alot more marketable than I am and because Im generally more easy-going and even tempered- we thought I'd be best suited for this job. Now that she has the chemistry of motherhood coursing through her veins, she regrets the plan. The family is full of I told you so's in addition to considering me a lazy bum and I've sort of lost my wife as someone I can turn to with any negativity. I feel like I have to be "on" all the time and to complain to her would be the height of insensitivity.

We actually have a wonderful relationship, she's just going through a very tough time right now, and I don't want to dump on her. So... I'll dump on a couple hundred strangers instead.

thanks for providing this forum, I hope to speak to many of you soon

PS- I saw that there was a forum for DIY home repair stuff here which is what I do (did) and would love to help anyone that needed it and I also wrote a book if anyone wants to check it out, its kinda funny. Just search my name, "Matthew Foster" at amazon or barnes and noble. the books called "waiter!"

[tt3]

Hey Matthew welcome aboard. Please vent away, man, its incredibly cathartic. Unload! Go to the first couple of pages and see how we unloaded too! :lol:
You have any experience laying out bathrooms? Its our next basement project!
Hope to hear more from you...

[Anonymous]

thats all relieving to hear, thank you.

Louis: I spent many years in baton rouge, I wouldnt be surprised if I somehow knew your friends its a tiny tiny small world there.

tt3: Ive done many a bathroom though Ive never even been in a basement before. Our water table is about three feet below the surface so any basement down here would quickly fill with water. Im actually really proud of my most recent bathroom. My home page is:

http://fosterfest.tripod.com

that page is all pics of the baby but click on "our renovation" to see the house I just finished and live in. Originally built in 1880, it burned down in 1998 and my wife and I bought it for a song.

Im really glad this page is here and I hope to spend alot of time here but for now, its late but thanks again for your supportive comments.

matt

[Weston]

Welcome to the site Matt. Like tt said - go through the old postings and you'll find that your definitely not alone.

It seems like a lot of us end up going through a situation similar to yours at some point in time. Right now I'm going through a little bit of second guessing myself on my decision. It will all work itself out in the end.

Come back and post when you can

Mike

[Don-Dad]

Welcome Matt!

Feel free to vent, that is the main reason this board exists :wink:

Checked out your site, cute kid! Some nice pics.

[Patrickz]

You are not alone as you will see by this fourm. My family is not that supportive ether. I am a Dr. Phil fan most days :oops: And he said to a stay at home dad on the show for him to remember that he is taking care and raising the most important asset he has next to his wife. I think of that often when I feel a bit worthless.

Post away!