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Old 12-04-2019, 01:16 AM
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That is certainly a good neighbor!
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Old 12-04-2019, 02:02 AM
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Hee hee.
Our 12 turned into 4.
Buttttt... That's all it takes for the power to be out for lets see...30 hours now? But who's counting. Bought a genny 2 year ago and finally get to use it. I'm a newbie at this.
The boss had to go to Milford-hour away first thing in the morning. Turns out they were closed. She could have lost her job if they were open. Would be just like them to be open. 3 others showed up just in case...

Good neighbor checked in on us. Q&A on our readiness talked to me about generator use and then came back with more gasoline for my genny and a can of propane for my grill. He refused payment. We are gonna get them a gift card and insist they take it. Blessed to have them.

Milford PA is a beautiful town. 5" of snow inches and no power? Scary. Nice job by your neighbor too.
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Old 12-05-2019, 11:44 AM
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We did school. Drives me nuts that she gets all "I got this-I don't need your help" after watching the daily video. She moves on to handouts, I grade them at end of school day and clearly she did not "get this." Next day is a redux in math.
I got all the laundry done and most of the house vacuumed before the charge ran out.
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Old 12-05-2019, 12:34 PM
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We did school. Drives me nuts that she gets all "I got this-I don't need your help" after watching the daily video. She moves on to handouts, I grade them at end of school day and clearly she did not "get this." Next day is a redux in math.
I got all the laundry done and most of the house vacuumed before the charge ran out.
The opposite end of that argument is that she relies on you for every little thing and she has zero confidence. That's what we're dealing with with our 12yo. Pippa is several years younger IIRC. Puberty is a game-changer. Let her have her confidence but also let her own the consequence - without you taking the blame. Personally, given how you've been manipulated I'd have a hidden camera/voice recorder in the room to keep as evidence. Keep everyone honest.

For now, your challenge is teaching her how to fail with grace by telling her "you didn't get it this time, but think about what you did wrong and learn not to do it again so that you don't fail next time."

As for my kid, he's getting straight A's and his teachers all praise him yet still says "I'm stupid" or "I'm ugly." It's sort of the opposite problem, and I know that those demons are coming from the whole social culture of middle school; EVERYONE is lacking confidence and putting everyone else down to make themselves feel better. I want him to be out there and social but I understand that peer pressure is a thing. God, do I know. My memories of my own experience in 7th-12th grade still make me squirm.

That's why I'm such a mess; I didn't learn those lessons. It doesn't make me more qualified to teach them though; I still get frustrated that I have to "motivate" my kid to get out of bed in the morning yet I have that very same problem.

Really though, his problem - and mine - are that we're impulsive and too worried about the concept of failing. It happens anyway though because it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The only way around that is to make a routine to follow.

That being said, the video games are definitely an issue and need to disappear. Mine too.
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Old 12-09-2019, 03:42 PM
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Wife says I need to have the house ready for the "inspectors." I'm holding a "field day" of laundry and decluttering. We did a lot of work in anticipation of Thanksgiving when we hosted some particularly particular guests. It amazes me how germophobic and nitpicky people can be when Pittsburgh was a notoriously dirty and polluted place when they were growing up.

EDIT and PS: my wife and I cleared out 24 bags of leaves from our postage stamp sized lot. Surprisingly, the trash truck took them all. Nobody else in our neighborhood has every put out that many; they all pay landscapers to come in and blow the leaves down the street. As you know, I have LOTS of shrubs and a fence. FWIW many of my trees (I have a huge pear tree, three pin oaks, a half dead maple and a Russian maple - so I realize that I'm generating a LOT of the yard waste here) have yet to completely shed their leaves. The pin oaks historically have shed them in the spring because of some blight or other. The pear tree usually doesn't shed them until after Thanksgiving. This year the Russian maple still has its dried out leaves.

At some point I'm going to rent a chain saw to cut down the plain maple tree; it's not that tall and limbs have been rotting off for the past couple of years so half of them are gone or brittle enough to just snap off.
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