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Old 05-16-2012, 11:43 PM
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I wouldn't worry about it. Justin's 8 now and has EXTREME behavioral problems. If the state hasn't taken him by now they never will unless we want them to - over my dead body I might add.

Anyway, my son bites, hits, scratches, spits, defiles things, etc. etc. and has been injured through his own actions on my watch and in the care of others. Nobody was at fault; he just doesn't understand sometimes and reacts much in a way a toddler would, only her looks like a normal 8 year old.

My biggest fear came to reality when he escaped into the neighborhood early one morning. Fortunately the police weren't involved - the neighbors knew where to bring him - but afterward I actually called my local PD to see if I could register him on something akin to a registry so that ther PD and EMS know what to do should he go missing or be discovered wandering because if handled incorrectly he could become violent and I wouldn't want him to be hurt. The PD told me that's they couldn't collect such information because of the ACLU.

Being that you're a libertarian and all, young might find that ironic. Well, once upon a time I was a die-hard Republican and I can tell young that now I kind of lean toward the middle. The bills would ruin us if we had to pay them on our own. We're talking 5 figures here on therapy AND medications.

BTW, if you're worried about CPS or the equivalent I'd be more concerned about your younger children. If they deem Ben Jr. is a danger to them then they could use that as a reason to intervene and remove, either Ben Jr. or the younger ones. Hopefully you're not at that point. We've had concerns but have and will take actions for our younger son's sake.
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Old 05-17-2012, 06:05 AM
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BTW, if you're worried about CPS or the equivalent I'd be more concerned about your younger children. If they deem Ben Jr. is a danger to them then they could use that as a reason to intervene and remove, either Ben Jr. or the younger ones. Hopefully you're not at that point. We've had concerns but have and will take actions for our younger son's sake.
If that's the biggest possible concern, I'm a lot more relaxed now. Ben's 4, David's 2, and everyone else is a teenager. David's younger, but he's plenty tough. And even in his meltdowns, Ben hasn't shown any violent tendencies beyond a shove, after which David tends to get up and get in his face.
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My experience with the state is a mixed bag, but as other have said whats your issue reporting this info to the state, I would highly suggest you research the schools they want Ben to attend and look into private schools as well.
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If that's the biggest possible concern, I'm a lot more relaxed now. Ben's 4, David's 2, and everyone else is a teenager. David's younger, but he's plenty tough. And even in his meltdowns, Ben hasn't shown any violent tendencies beyond a shove, after which David tends to get up and get in his face.
You need to have a conference call with kwak I or Willsdad to go over the pitfalls and have a sounding board, We use the states services to our advantage at the moment we about 15-16 of services in home including :
-Speech Therapy
-Physical Therapy
-ABA
-RESPIT Care
-In Home Nurse.

Highly recommend wraparound for Ben.
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Old 05-17-2012, 04:04 PM
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As a sort of unrelated but still loosely related part of the thread, David's speech therapist was here today and she was truly mean. Black stretch pants, leaning over while writing showing all that cleavage. That level of torture has got to be a violation of several laws from the local level to international treaties!

And yes, I know...
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Old 05-17-2012, 05:11 PM
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Yeah, a few of Justin's therapists have been quite easy on the eyes but in the end it just reminds me how old I'm getting.
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Old 05-17-2012, 07:19 PM
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Me too. You couldn't pay me enough to go back to the dating world. I reached exhaustion in that scene by 30.
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So has everything settled down to something resembling normalcy? If it's has, please tell me what you did!
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